The other night we were all home together at 6pm – not as common these days with life being so full. I must have been having a Happy Hormone Moment because I felt to tell Geoff how much I loved him, appreciate all that he does for our family and what a great person he is. I said it in front of the girls. They didn’t comment but I knew they love hearing this and it reconfirms our strong family and the bond we have together.
That made me reflect yet again (I seem to be doing a lot of reflecting these days) about the importance of being united as a couple. Below are a few thoughts about being united:
- It’s important to visibly show your children that you love each other. We used to kiss in front of them when they were younger (usually to annoy them) and they of course used to gag and say “go away”, but it creates an environment of security. Also, if they know that Geoff and I are on the same side, they won’t be able to try and get their way with us individually.
- Be united as parents means discussing with each other what’s going on with your children, sharing issues that might be coming up.
- Communicate as a family, particularly over the dinner table. It creates opportunities not just to hear from your children but also from your partner.
- Sometimes you need to work as a tag team. We all get tired from parenting, so it’s important to watch out for each other and step in if your partner needs a break. We used to take turns looking after the girls when we were on holidays, if the other just needed an hour to themselves (to read a book uninterrupted – bliss).
- Be in agreement on boundaries in the home. For example – no name calling, listen to each other, mobiles off at the dinner table, be polite to each other. Being together on this brings consistency to the home which contributes to a calmer atmosphere.
You are not always going to agree with each other. But learn how to resolve your differences in a peaceful, friendly, mature way. Ofcourse we argue, like any married couple – but I’d like to think of it as heated discussions. I read some of the above in a parenting magazine www.theparentingplace.com
Anyway, I hope this helps in navigating your way through this fun, challenging thing called parenting.
Enjoy your weekend. If you have a child doing the HSC which starts this Monday, as we do, please wish them well and I hope their mind is clear and they have peace.
Love Chris xx